The Unholy Trinity

You always go back to the people who were there in the beginning - Andie (Dawson's Creek)

I know, right. But who didn't watch DC? Seriously.

It's reassuring when two good friends can go months without speaking, yet pick up right where they left off. And the no-speaking isn't for any reason in particular, there's not been any falling-out, but everyone knows how difficult it is to keep in touch on a regular basis when you're two states away, both in school and/or working full-time, etc.

I am very lucky to have Macadamia and BFF. Beyond lucky, even. I am lucky to have some very good, close friends, but today I want to talk about these two in particular.

Macadamia, BFF and I were pretty much inseparable through the majority of our undergraduate careers, an 'Unholy Trinity' of sorts (We don't use trinity to be offensive, but just to imply that there are three of us. Triangle just sounded weird.) Macadamia and I met the summer after our freshman year, when taking summer classes. We met BFF that fall when he was a freshman, though we were not yet friends with him. It wouldn't be until the following school year that we all lived together in another dorm that we made him our friend, and the rest is history. We had lots of fun, always going to basketball games, footballs games, and pretty much just hanging out all the time. When my family came to visit, it was always a given the Macadamia and BFF would go out to dinner with us, breakfast, everything. They're included because they might as well be family.

But eventually we all have to graduate, right? BFF went off to the West Coast and Macadamia, incidentally, went to my homeland in the Frozen North. It's easy to see how communication gets difficult sometimes, because we all have busy lives (except for me right now, since I'm in that whole 'wallowing' thing). While I did just see BFF when we went to Sin City in April, not to mention I've sobbed to him, yelled to him, laughed with him, and been given talkings-to from him several times in the last 25 days, we don't (under normal non-broken-heart circumstances) usually get to talk every day. But because I have needed him, he's been there.

With Macadamia, on the other hand, I have not since her since LAST April. We've left Facebook comments and such for each other, but there just haven't been conversations like we had in college. It happens, it's an unfortunate side effect of growing up, but some friendships can't be altered, regardless of time or distance. When I first started this blog last week I sent a Facebook message to several friends telling them about it and that I hoped they would read it and let me know what they thought. And thankfully, Macadamia has been reading. She sent me a message stating so and not long after that when I was on the phone with BFF, wallowing, Macadamia texted me saying to call her; she had an idea.

And that's what I love about the other 2/3rds of this trinity: no matter the amount of time or the distance between any of of the three of us, we're still good friends. Put us anywhere together, and it was just like college all over again, like we'd been together all along.

So I called her of course, and it felt exactly as if it did nine years ago when we first met while taking summer classes. People have always questioned how we've been able to even be friends: I'm the loud, out-going one, she's the quieter one. But make no mistake about it, we're much more alike than people realize at first glance; we talked and laughed and it did not feel as though over a year had gone by since we were last able to have a significant conversation. Within an hour we had new inside jokes, new catch-phrases, and a plan.

So despite the fact that yesterday was his birthday and tomorrow night I know he's going to go to the bar we always used to go to, get drunk and have a really good time not missing me, for the first time since we broke up I am looking forward to this weekend. Even if it is fleeting because I'm still on a roller coaster, it's nice to feel happy again.

Who do you lean on when you're dealing with something like this, or even when you're just having a rough day?